What is EFCT?
EFCT (Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy) or commonly referred to as EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) is a structured approach that has the goal of helping couples communicate and heal at a deeper level than what they are used to. Most EFT research to date has focused on outcome and process of change studies with couples, and EFT for couples is the gold standard for empirically validated intervention in this field.
I am a trained EFT Therapist and ICEEFT member
What can EFCT help with?
Common issues addressed in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
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Communication Difficulty
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Affair Recovery
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Lack of Trust
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Escalated Arguments
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Potential Divorce
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Seperation
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Parenting
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Lack of Intimacy/Romance
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Feeling Like Roommates
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Repeated Arguments
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Pre-Marital
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Resentment
What is the goal of EFCT?
The goal of EFCT is to help a couple talk through difficult things in a way that allows them to bond, heal, and see each other differently. Within this goal we aim to heal wounds that has been caused by each other and create a connection that we have lost or longed for.
Our relationship is pretty bad, can therapy even help?
Often times when couples come in, they ask me, "do you think we can make it?", "Do you think this is salvageable?".One of the things I tell my couples is I believe any couple can have a good relationship if they are both willing to do the hard work and stay committed. It's not easy, but if you love them, its worth the effort.
How long does EFCT typically take?
Typically EFCT can take 8-20 sessions. But something to remember is that every couple is different. Some people have a few easily identifiable issues that are not severe which allows the timeline of therapy to be quicker. Some have years upon years of heartache and resentment, which takes more time to work through. Although we would all like things to be "fixed" quickly, often times the best things in life take time
What does EFCT typically look like?
Usually the first session with the couple is all about learning more about how they have conflict and possible contributing factors that could be intensifying that conflict. Then I usually spend a couple of sessions giving them tools to help de-escalate the couple so they can possibly experience some relief from the tension sooner than later. After the tools are learned, we start to go down the road of EFCT and sessions consist of helping the couple bond through conversation and grow closer together